Hello Friends,
When is the last time you stopped to consider where your time is being spent and how you feel about it?
How much time do you spend caring for others?
How much of your time is spent caring for yourself?
When you realize that you are in charge of your life and your time is limited, your choices become more important. You will care more about what you say yes to and what you say no to.
One of the ways to take control of where you spend your time is to create what I call an Absolute Yes list. This is a list of the top five priorities that need your attention for the next three to six months.
Creating an Absolute Yes list will hep you to remember your priorities, especially when your life gets hectic and you feel like you are losing time. Having this list handy makes it easier to focus your time on the things that are most important, and in doing so, to identify the things that are a waste of your time. After all, once you are clear about the yeses, the nos become easier to define too.
While in a relaxed state , ask yourself the following question, giving yourself time for each one.
What needs my attention at this time in my life?
What do I need to let go off ?
Learning to say no with grace and love is a key way to protect your time . If saying no is difficult for you , remember the following tips.
Your self-care is always a valid excuse.
You don't need to over-explain or defend your actions.
Just tell the simple truth
Doing thing out of guild and obligation is not doing things out of love.
So, the next time someone asks you to do something that you would rather not do, simply smile and tell them you are not available.
Thursday, July 24, 2008
Wednesday, June 4, 2008
Building Self-Confidence
Develop the Self-Confidence You Deserve!
From the quietly confident doctor whose advice we rely on, to the star-quality confidence of an inspiring speaker, self-confident people have qualities that everyone admires.
Self-confidence is extremely important in almost every aspect of our lives, yet so many people struggle to find it. Sadly, this can be a vicious circle: People who lack self-confidence can find it difficult to become successful. After all, would you instinctively want to back a project that was being pitched by someone who was nervous, fumbling and overly apologetic?
On the other hand, you might be persuaded by someone who spoke clearly, who held his or her head high, who answered questions assuredly, and who readily admitted when he/she did not know something.
Self-confident people inspire confidence in others: Their audience, their peers, their bosses, their customers, and their friends. Gaining the confidence of others is one of the key ways in which a self-confident person finds success.
The good news is that self-confidence really can be learned and built on. And, whether you’re working on your own self-confidence or building the confidence of people around you, it’s well-worth the effort! All other things being equal, self-confidence is often the single ingredient that distinguishes a successful person from someone less successful.
From the quietly confident doctor whose advice we rely on, to the star-quality confidence of an inspiring speaker, self-confident people have qualities that everyone admires.
Self-confidence is extremely important in almost every aspect of our lives, yet so many people struggle to find it. Sadly, this can be a vicious circle: People who lack self-confidence can find it difficult to become successful. After all, would you instinctively want to back a project that was being pitched by someone who was nervous, fumbling and overly apologetic?
On the other hand, you might be persuaded by someone who spoke clearly, who held his or her head high, who answered questions assuredly, and who readily admitted when he/she did not know something.
Self-confident people inspire confidence in others: Their audience, their peers, their bosses, their customers, and their friends. Gaining the confidence of others is one of the key ways in which a self-confident person finds success.
The good news is that self-confidence really can be learned and built on. And, whether you’re working on your own self-confidence or building the confidence of people around you, it’s well-worth the effort! All other things being equal, self-confidence is often the single ingredient that distinguishes a successful person from someone less successful.
Thursday, May 29, 2008
Applying the Law of Least Effort
I will put the Law of Least Effort into effect by making a commitment to take the following steps:
I will practice Acceptance. Today I will accept people, situations, circumstances, and events as they occur. I will know that this moment is as is should be, because the whole universe is as it should be. I will not struggle against the whole universe by struggling against this moment. My acceptance is total and complete. I accept things as they are this moment, not as I wish they were.
Having accepted things as they are, I will take Responsibility for my situation and for all those events I see as problems. I know that taking responsibility means not blaming anyone or anything for my situation (and this includes myself). I also know that every problem is an opportunity in disguise, and this alertness to opportunities allow me to take this moment and transform it into a greater benefit.
Today my awareness will remain established in Defenselessness. I will relinquish the need to defend my point of view. I will feel no need to convince or persuade others to accept my point of view. I will remain open to all points of view and not be rigidly attached to any on of them.
Excerpt of "The Seven Spiritual Laws of Success" by Deepar Chopra
I will practice Acceptance. Today I will accept people, situations, circumstances, and events as they occur. I will know that this moment is as is should be, because the whole universe is as it should be. I will not struggle against the whole universe by struggling against this moment. My acceptance is total and complete. I accept things as they are this moment, not as I wish they were.
Having accepted things as they are, I will take Responsibility for my situation and for all those events I see as problems. I know that taking responsibility means not blaming anyone or anything for my situation (and this includes myself). I also know that every problem is an opportunity in disguise, and this alertness to opportunities allow me to take this moment and transform it into a greater benefit.
Today my awareness will remain established in Defenselessness. I will relinquish the need to defend my point of view. I will feel no need to convince or persuade others to accept my point of view. I will remain open to all points of view and not be rigidly attached to any on of them.
Excerpt of "The Seven Spiritual Laws of Success" by Deepar Chopra
Thursday, May 8, 2008
Extending Ourselves
Extending ourselves beyond our ordinary way of approaching things is not faking it.
We learn by doing, and by making an effort. If we are not willing to extend ourselves beyond our normal comfort zone, we'll never learn new ways of living and being. We will make mistakes, and we will experience what we call “failure”. At these times we can say to ourselves, “Hmmm. I seemed to have made a little mistake here. Perhaps I could backup for a moment, and approach it from another perspective, in another way.” It is only when we "put our foot down" and then discover we've put it in the wrong place, and then get busy defending what we've done, that we compound our mistake. That's what makes the mess — not the extending of ourselves.In short, we must give ourselves the opportunity to "fail" and then forgive ourselves for those failures if we are ever to achieve success.
We learn by doing, and by making an effort. If we are not willing to extend ourselves beyond our normal comfort zone, we'll never learn new ways of living and being. We will make mistakes, and we will experience what we call “failure”. At these times we can say to ourselves, “Hmmm. I seemed to have made a little mistake here. Perhaps I could backup for a moment, and approach it from another perspective, in another way.” It is only when we "put our foot down" and then discover we've put it in the wrong place, and then get busy defending what we've done, that we compound our mistake. That's what makes the mess — not the extending of ourselves.In short, we must give ourselves the opportunity to "fail" and then forgive ourselves for those failures if we are ever to achieve success.
Affirmations
Human beings, by changing the inner attitudes of their minds, can change the outer aspects of their lives." William James
Affirmations are powerful. Thoughts, spoken words, and written statements are acts of creation. It is important that our words be in alignment with our desires. In order to live the life we want, we must affirm what we want, not what we do not want.
Make Affirmations Resonate With You
Simply saying or reading or even writing affirmations without feelings will do little to promote change. Thoughts evoke feelings and then those feelings power additional thoughts. Without feelings, we might just as well be a log in the woods.
In working with both verbal and written affirmations, I have monitored their impact on a variety of persons. Some individuals have come to me after working for a long time, perhaps even diligently, with affirmations that have stimulated no change at all because there was no resonance - nice words, but no connection.
Each person has a resonance or vibration or frequency; each affirmation has a resonance or vibration or frequency. So, too, a desire to change resonates. Affirmations that are in proper resonance with the person thinking or saying or writing them can positively impact the physical, emotional, mental, and spiritual aspects and other invisible layers in the energy field.
Affirmations are powerful. Thoughts, spoken words, and written statements are acts of creation. It is important that our words be in alignment with our desires. In order to live the life we want, we must affirm what we want, not what we do not want.
Make Affirmations Resonate With You
Simply saying or reading or even writing affirmations without feelings will do little to promote change. Thoughts evoke feelings and then those feelings power additional thoughts. Without feelings, we might just as well be a log in the woods.
In working with both verbal and written affirmations, I have monitored their impact on a variety of persons. Some individuals have come to me after working for a long time, perhaps even diligently, with affirmations that have stimulated no change at all because there was no resonance - nice words, but no connection.
Each person has a resonance or vibration or frequency; each affirmation has a resonance or vibration or frequency. So, too, a desire to change resonates. Affirmations that are in proper resonance with the person thinking or saying or writing them can positively impact the physical, emotional, mental, and spiritual aspects and other invisible layers in the energy field.
Love your Bills
It is essential that we stop worrying about money and stop resenting our bills. Many people treat bills as punishments to be avoided if possible. A bill is an acknowledgment of our ability to pay. The creditor assumes you are affluent enough and gives you the service or the product first. I bless with love each and every bill that comes into my home. I bless with love and stamp a small kiss on each and every check I write. If you pay with resentment, money has hard time coming back to you. If you pay with love and joy, you open the free flowing channel of abundance. Treat your money as a friend, not as something you wad up and crush into your pocket.
Your security is not your job, or your bank account, or your investments, or your spouse or parents. Your security is your ability to connect with cosmic power that creates all things.
Except from You Can Heal Your Life, by Louise L Hay.
Your security is not your job, or your bank account, or your investments, or your spouse or parents. Your security is your ability to connect with cosmic power that creates all things.
Except from You Can Heal Your Life, by Louise L Hay.
Monday, April 14, 2008
How can you stay positive when you hear bad news?
Hello Friends,
Don't focus on the bad news, don't give it power. Look at things from a different perspective. For example: what happen in the recession of 1929? Many people become more wealthy. in times like now is the time to take the opportunity to revaluate your life, finances,
relationships, friends, work, and most importantly, yourself.
Am I happy? Do I have Joy in my life? Do I laugh frequently?
How are your finance? Do I spend more than I earned? How can I learn to change this habits?
How is my relationships? Does my family support me? DO I BELIEVE IN MYSELF?
Are my friends positive? Do they complain all the time? Do I complain all the time?
Do I like my work? Am I enjoying being at work? Do I complain about my work?
Answer the questions above, and it will give you an idea how positive you are, or how much you need to improve your state of mind.
Look for positive people, go attend classes to learn about yourself and how you can change. Or just being willing to make this change will make big differences in your life.
Have a great Week!!!
Don't focus on the bad news, don't give it power. Look at things from a different perspective. For example: what happen in the recession of 1929? Many people become more wealthy. in times like now is the time to take the opportunity to revaluate your life, finances,
relationships, friends, work, and most importantly, yourself.
Am I happy? Do I have Joy in my life? Do I laugh frequently?
How are your finance? Do I spend more than I earned? How can I learn to change this habits?
How is my relationships? Does my family support me? DO I BELIEVE IN MYSELF?
Are my friends positive? Do they complain all the time? Do I complain all the time?
Do I like my work? Am I enjoying being at work? Do I complain about my work?
Answer the questions above, and it will give you an idea how positive you are, or how much you need to improve your state of mind.
Look for positive people, go attend classes to learn about yourself and how you can change. Or just being willing to make this change will make big differences in your life.
Have a great Week!!!
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